Listen, I’ve been in this personal growth game for a while now… and if there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that the words we tell ourselves matter. Like, REALLY matter.
You know how some mornings you wake up and your brain immediately goes “ugh, another day of this”? Yeah. That’s exactly why we need to talk about affirmations.
## **The Thing Nobody Tells You About Affirmations**
Here’s what bugs me – everyone thinks affirmations are just standing in front of a mirror saying “I am beautiful” twenty times. And sure, if that works for you, great! But there’s so much more happening under the surface.
When you’re working with something like ThetaHealing or any deep transformative practice (like what the folks at Life Mastery Journeys do), you realize affirmations aren’t just words. They’re literally rewiring your brain. Not metaphorically. Actually physically changing the neural pathways.
I remember this one client… let’s call her Sarah. She came to me convinced affirmations were “woo-woo nonsense.” Three months later? She’d completely transformed her relationship with money. Not because she found a magic lamp. Because she changed the stories she was telling herself every. single. day.
## **Why Most People Get Affirmations Wrong**
Okay so here’s where I might ruffle some feathers.
Most affirmations fail because:
– **They’re too generic** – “I am abundant” means nothing if your subconscious is screaming “LIAR!”
– **No emotion behind them** – Saying words without feeling is like typing without pressing the keys
– **Fighting against deep beliefs** – If you’ve got 30 years of “I’m not good enough” programming, one week of affirmations won’t cut it
– **They’re not connected to action** – Affirming without doing is just… wishful thinking
This is why working with an intuitive coach or healing facilitator can be such a game-changer. They help you dig out those sneaky limiting beliefs hiding in your subconscious basement.
## **The Secret Sauce (It’s Not What You Think)**
Here’s what actually makes affirmations work for personal growth:
**1. They have to feel possible**
Instead of “I am a millionaire” when you’re struggling to pay rent, try “I am learning to manage money wisely.” See the difference? One feels like a lie. The other feels like growth.
**2. Present tense but process-oriented**
“I am becoming more confident each day” beats “I am the most confident person alive.” Your brain can get on board with becoming. It rebels against obvious falsehoods.
**3. Connected to your body**
This is huge and nobody talks about it enough! Say your affirmation while doing something physical. Walking. Breathing deeply. Even just pressing your feet into the ground. It anchors the words into your nervous system.
## **Making It Real (Because That’s What Matters)**
Look, I get it. When you’re in the thick of challenges, when life feels heavy, standing there saying positive things can feel… stupid. Fake. Like you’re lying to yourself.
But here’s the thing – and this is what every spiritual seeker eventually discovers – you’re already telling yourself stories all day long. Might as well make them stories that serve you, right?
The people who see real transformation (like the ones who work with Life Mastery Journeys or similar coaching programs) understand this: **Affirmations aren’t about pretending everything is perfect. They’re about creating space for something better to grow.**
## **Your Next Move**
Want to actually make affirmations work for your personal growth? Try this:
1. **Write down the biggest lie you tell yourself** (yeah, the nasty one)
2. **Flip it – but keep it believable**
3. **Say it while moving your body** (even just swaying works)
4. **Do it for 21 days minimum** (your brain needs time to rewire)
5. **Notice the resistance** (that’s where the gold is)
And honestly? If you’re feeling stuck, get help. Whether it’s ThetaHealing, intuitive coaching, or just talking to someone who gets it… sometimes we need someone else to hold the flashlight while we dig through our stuff.
Because here’s what I know for sure after all these years: Personal growth isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about remembering who you’ve always been underneath all the stories.
And affirmations? They’re just one tool to help you remember.
Now go tell yourself something true and kind. Even if your brain fights you on it. Especially if your brain fights you on it.
That’s where the magic happens.